Sunday, June 4, 2017

MEMORIES of MY CHILDHOOD

When we were mere children, my cousin Cristina and I used to spend summer days at our grandparents' bizarre and quirky house on Ramon Anador street, a lush neighborhood enclave only thirty minutes from my own parents’ home. Each day we'd rummage through my grandfather Sebastian’s luxurious garden finding honey suckle and trumpet flowers to draw in their sweetness; we'd hide in the cool and enormous oleander bushes and pretend we were in a dense green forest where witches and fairies made their homes. At other times we'd play ‘house’ with our dolls and shared our grass salads which we’d dressed with lemon juice from the sweet and bountiful Meyer lemon tree, we'd also ‘borrow’ a pinch of salt from our abuela (grandma) for a more flavorful dish. By the noon hour we were ravenous so we'd pick up our dolls and the little China plates and bowls to meet our grandparents in the dining room (after washing our red, sweaty hands and faces) for the mid-day meal. I enjoyed favorite foods from both my grandmas. Sophia's best dish was Shepherd’s Pie and the wonderful, flaky baked quince turnovers – a most treasured childhood memory... it was the first bite and its immediate warmth throughout my chest and the harmony that made me love them every time.
Such memories seem to never leave the scope of my consciousness, the comfort of a sweet turnover, the companionship of a special cousin, my abuela Sophia, rolling pin in hand, preparing the dough; the quirky multi-leveled house -with a patio abutted with an assortment of potted, opulent plants at its center- and a working aljibe (water well) in the farthest passage between the entrance steps and the patio.
The mid-size kitchen was my grandma Sophia’s sanctuary, it was sunny and organized unlike my mother’s.
I also have fond memories of all my mother’s siblings meeting for Sunday dinner at that funky old, large and red tiled dining room; a long table to accommodate about 14, the young ones sitting in the patio in summer, even in a soft drizzle (because that's what we loved) at a table made by our abuelo (grandpa) Sebastian, out of smooth wood planks. Our stools being cement blocks painted in different fun colors. My cousins and I (about six of us) patiently waiting Sophia’s home-made pasta, either spinach ravioli, gnocchi or tallarines (tagliatelle) with her most delicious meat sauce on top plus grated Parmesan which we had grated by hand earlier that day, taking turns -Cristina and I- because we were the oldest, knees on a stool, the grater heavy, helping to turn the block of cheese in our hands into perfectly grated shavings.

I was lucky to have learned early on that food is about so much more than nourishment -always bringing forth the memories of comfortable family bonding, and childhood innocence back to me every time I choose to. Now, with most of those people gone I know that all those recollections from the past bring me warmth and comfort- once again.

Monday, April 10, 2017

PASSOVER TRADITIONS


This year as I prepare for the Passover, I realize how important tradition is to me. Tradition cements the bond to my descendants but also crosses the bridge to those who have departed: my parents and grandparents. Tradition from now on is up to my sister and me, our children maybe, yes, maybe later once they feel the tug of their heritage.
Sis and I -as protectors of our family’s legacy, still enjoy the festival and preparing traditional dishes for our own families. 

On the eve of the holiday, my grandma Rizula used to make the best charoset (mixture of apples, honey, walnuts, sweet Kosher wine and spices) and just before sunset on Passover she would set a spoonful on the Seder Plate while the rest was placed by tablespoons onto fresh escarole leaves then rolled up into short fat packets … symbolizing the sorrow of slavery (bitter escarole) and the sweetness (charoset) of the Jews’ exodus from their servitude in Egypt. 
Her thumb-print cookies were an unforgettable dream for which my cousins and I had to wait the entire year!  I recently asked one of my Israeli cousins if she had the recipe but, alas, everyone knows Rizula saved recipes in her head and not in a recipe box in the pantry.
My grandma’s memory fills my heart with nostalgia … she was a weaver of rugs, spending long winter hours bent over her loom creating patterns with soft, multi colored or monochromatic silks and yarns.  What thoughts or memories played in her mind during those hours of solitude?
A great cook of traditional Sephardic cuisine; she was also a great source of wisdom, comfort and support to her six living progenies and all her grandchildren.
When I was a child, I used to watch her as she lit the Sabbath candles, her faith written on her face as my grandfather whispered the holy prayers attired in his kippah (yarmulke) and tālēt (tallit) (his much-worn prayer shawl).

Every Passover I review the packets of matzo in supermarkets’ tempting displays plus all the other necessary items ‘Koshered’ for the holiday. My grandmother’s cooking creations came from scratch…I could now buy prepared matzo-ball soup, or grape leaves in a tin if I wanted to!                                                                                                            
I like the tradition of preparing comforting food for the holidays, its symbolic meaning etched in my head through the nostalgic memories of my ancestors’ past. I can recreate the recipes I experienced during my childhood, the legendary boyicos, huevos haminados, borekas, fritadas and other wonderful soul-altering treats, a sumptuous array of Sephardic fare constructed and influenced through the centuries by intricate historic circumstances, persecution, dietary laws, legacy and religious displacement.
Remembrance brings the galloping power of memories spreading tradition into our cultural views and celebratory ways … because when my grandma rolled the escarole leaves with the charoset filling on Passover Eve, and lovingly placed the last biscuit with plumb jam in its center on the buttered cookie sheet, she was also placing commitment and affection along with pride and family ritual, she was recasting her own mother’s and grandmothers’ roles in the act of preparing and serving food for her family.

Our Seder this year will be small, our parents and grandparents have already passed on; our children, living in different parts of the country won’t be around either so it'll be just a couple of friends,  my hubby and me -plus the memories of numerous Passovers past.  I will set the Seder plate, belonging to my grandmother, just about the same way she did throughout my childhood: the bitter herbs in the left corner, the tiny bowl of salt water -- symbolic of tears -- just to the other side, the hard-boiled egg (fertility and life), the charoset, the matzo, the lamb shank … lighting the candles at sunset, I'll recite a short prayer feeling the incredible warmth of ancestors past vying for space round the table -right by my side. ESW








                                                                            

Thursday, December 17, 2015

POST CARDS FROM SIAM - The Thai 'Wai'

I would like to explain the Thai custom called “Wai Prah” and the graceful way of saying hello and farewell in Thailand. Just as in every other culture, Thais greet one another when they meet formally or informally. Generally, in the Western world and in business spheres of most countries, people who meet acknowledge the fact with a handshake.With the exclusion of Russians, who kiss and hug even when they don’t know one another; Eskimos, who rub noses; and Middle Easterners, who touch their heart with their right hand bowing their head slightly upon meeting you.
IThailand howevergreeting is a bit more complex; people here just “wai”.
This traditional “wai” symbolizes respect for another human being by acknowledging the importance of a person; the greeting is both formal and polite with the precise degree of respect conveyed in the expression. A “wai” is the motion of placing both palms together in a prayer-like gesture somewhere between the chest and forehead with a slight bow of the head and highlighted by a smile.  Practiced throughout Thailand, the “wai” is a graceful sign of recognition and reverence.
People’s age as well as social rank make a difference on who should “wai” first; no wonder most people in my high rise building “wai” me first thing every morningAwareness of a person’s status is important for the exact height placement of the palms. Equals would greet by placing their hands at chest level; however, while “wai-ing” the Buddha images in temples, palms would be brought all the way to the forehead while lowering the head all the way down in reverence.
“Wais” are not offered to waiters, taxi drivers, or service and repair people; when they “wai’ me though, I do acknowledge them with a nod of the head or a smile. When I am unsure, I “wai” anyway because this shows that I do care and take the time to greet somebody, especially if the other person is older than I am.
The motion of the “wai” means hello and goodbye, welcome, and thank you all in one gentle gesture. Children “wai” at grownups but this isn’t reciprocal. The elderly, though, should be “wai-ed” to; as well as high ranking officialsroyalty, teachers, professors, and when greeting a doctor at his/her office.
Showing reverence, obedience and respect, children within the family “wai” their parents by bringing their cupped hands all the way to the top of their foreheads; parents do not return the “wai”.  Learning and discipline are important and respected by all Thais; and schools and teachers have a place of honor because they make available the tools to succeed in life.  
Teachers and employers are also “wai-ed” to by their students and employees respectively, and Thais of all ages and ranks respectfully wai to all monks. As with parents, the “wai” will not be mutual.
You can imagine our confusion when within 5 days of our arrival in Thailand, a welcome reception with 200 invited Thai guests produced different degrees of “wai-ing”, and bowing.  When greeting so many people “wai-ing” can be exhausting!
In Thailand, the “wai” is looked on with affection, especially when coming from foreigners who have taken the trouble to learn a few simple cultural differences.  Like a smile, the “wai” sends the right messages and goes a long way creating a feeling of friendliness and attention.
Who would have thought a simple hello or goodbye could turn into such cultural and consequential performance!
EdieWilcox@12/05

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

POST CARD FROM SIAM -Loy Kratong

This month, I wanted to share one of the loveliest and most popular festivals in Thailand; it is called Loy Krathong.  Dates for this celebration fluctuate yearly, but they always coincide with November’s full moon.
During the festival, people make their way to their nearby klong (canal) or river in the early evening hours and set their krathongs afloat.  And what is a krathong? You may ask. 
This was our first Loy Krathong in Thailand and we also wanted to know all about the krathongs and the reasons for the masses of people along the river. 'Loy' means ‘to float’ and 'krathong' means ‘leaf cup’.

Loy Krathong is a Thankgiving festival to honor the Water Goddess for providing a profusion of precious water for a bountiful harvest.  Loy Krathong is a time when a yellow, full moon is low in the sky and all the rivers and klongs are brimming over at the end of the rainy season.  Children and adults alike float their krathongs in rivers, canals, even swimming pools, believing this will bring good luck in the next harvest season. In the rural areas, children flock to the rivers near their homes, some getting there on motorbikes, water buffalo carts, or on foot; most making wishes for a better future, good crops and clean, drinking water.  In the city, wishes will vary but most will be in agreement with good health and prosperity.

Krathongs are small bowls made of either interwoven banana leaves or from paper mache; some are made of bread dough and varnished with resin.  Most children will make their own krathong projects in school much the same way we make our own Valentines in February.  krathongs may also be purchased in stores; there are all kinds of different ones all over town.  Once the krathong is made, flowers, a candle and three incense sticks are placed in it.  All three are lighted before the krathong is placed on the water.  People make a wish at the same time the little vessel is released onto the water. Some believe that if the candle remains burning until the krathong is out of sight, their wishes will come true. By the end of the evening, there are hundreds of flickering lights bobbing up and down rivers and canals all over Thailand. Firework displays as well as puppet shows and beauty contests are also part of the celebrations.
Most hotels along the Chao Phraya River in Bangkok have special (and expensive) events to celebrate the occasion with food, beautifully designed krathongs, beauty pageants and cruises down the river to witness the glowing displays.

Loy Krathong is a 700 year-old event derived from the old Kingdom of Sukhothai, the first monarchy of what is now the Thai peninsula.
The first celebration hallmarked the monsoon season’s conclusion and the most important rice harvest of the year. Historians observe that the festival parallels a farming Hindu tradition of thanksgiving; a blessing of sorts, for the abundance of rain water received.  

In fact, Sukhothai farmers created the practice of floating candles down rivers and canals to carry their gratitude and best wishes to the water spirits; there’s also the tale of a beautiful kingdom woman who made the first special lanterns for the festival, she made them from banana leaves and shaped them like lotus flowers. The king was impressed with what he saw, so he announced that krathongs would be floated down all waterways every year from then on. Today, the memory of that woman who made the first krathong is remembered in the beauty contests that take place all over Thailand on Loy krathong Day.

Some people place money in their krathongs, take a bow, and set them afloat along the crowded waterways, chock full of wishes and dreams.
Once krathongs are out of sight families play with fireworks and eat Tom Yum (a delicious soup) with shrimp, lemon grass and rice. On the whole, it is a joyous family day.

Following are some accounts of Loy Krathong from some of the elementary school children I work with.  

Manee: “On Loy Krathong I saw a full moon in the sky. I went to the river at the town hall. I went with my father, mother and sister. I took a krathong I made at school. I lighted the candle and incense sticks in my krathong. I pushed it away onto the water and prayed. After I finished floating it, I played lucky dip. I got three marbles, some sweets and toilet paper. I played with fire works and firecrackers.”

Tanet: “On Loy Krathong Day I went to the river by motorcycle. I went with my sister. I floated my krathong in the river. I saw many salespeople selling krathongs, fireworks and fire crackers. I took my krathong down to the river. I lighted the candle and incense sticks. Afterwards, I played hide and seek. I bought three tickets for 30 baht. I won toilet paper and sweets.”

Sunatee: “I went to Loy Krathong with my mother and my sister to the river. There was a full moon in the sky and the water was high. Many people were there. We floated our krathongs from a boat in the river. First we lighted the candle and incense sticks. Then we took a vow for good luck. Then we pushed our krathongs away. After we finished we ate in a restaurant. We ate rice noodle soup with vegetables and meat. It was very delicious. Then we played lucky dip at the Red Cross stall three times. We won a glass, a pen and a plate. Then we went home.”

Orawan: “Yesterday I went to the river near my house with my family. We took our krathongs to float on the river. I lighted the candle and incense sticks. I prayed and then I floated my krathong. Afterwards, I bought some fireworks and fire crackers. I then played with my sister and brother. At the river I met my friends. I chatted with them for a while. Then I went to a restaurant with my family. We ate some rice and chicken fried in fresh chili paste and basil.”

Have a wonderful holiday season!


Tuesday, March 17, 2015

POST CARDS FROM SIAM - Thai Spirit Houses

have become fascinated with the Thai spirit houses I see all over Thailand, remarkably, they not only look stunning, but they are works of art. Some are colorful and made of cement; others are intricately carved in teak wood, and standing on pedestals on the grounds of most propertiesIn present-day Thailand, animistic rituals are overtly practiced verifying that the spirit world surrounds our physical space; spirit houses are ubiquitous, typically freestanding in the outer corners of residential high-rise buildings, in commercial developments, in the backyards of private homes, and in and out of shopping centers as wellEven taxi drivers surround themselves with small replicas or altars on their cars’ dashboards. Spirits are invited to reside in these tiny homes to – in turn - protect the property and the residents within
Spirit dwellings are present throughout the countryUsually mounted on bamboo or stone bases, they are set to rest in one corner of the land area to be protected.  Spirit houses are placed in new and old properties to encourage good luck and deflect misfortune. They are ordinarily displayed predominantly in the garden making sure that their shadow never superimposes the main building
Thai people believe that spirits reside in animate as well as inanimate objects, inhabiting our world and moving freely in the same spaces that humans do. They are present in and within trees, rocks, oceans … the skies
Once a home is built or a move to a new place is intended, a house for the spirits must also be brought in, or constructed. We even bought one recently by the roadside that links the beach resort of Pattaya to Bangkok. It now proudly stands in a corner of our home’s patio, with a picture of my family placed within … to encourage auspiciousness.
When Buddhism first grasped the land of old Siam over 1500 years ago, animism or spirit worship had been practiced extensively throughout the region. Through time, animistic convictions have been greatly fused with Buddhism making it difficult to separate one religious belief from the other. 
In order to appease the spiritsThais must make offerings of flower garlands, incense, candles and food placing them inside and outside the spirit housesthey also sprinkle holy water obtained from monks. Our own American Embassy compound in Bangkok contains a beautiful and elaborate spirit house on its premises.
Thai Buddhism and animism seem to be inseparable, much the same as pagan practices seem indivisible in Christianity (Christmas tree). In Thailand, Buddhism has progressed side by side with an ancient array of superstitions to explain nature, the cosmos, and the unexplainable. Religion is at the core of Thai culture giving life to all traditions, social systems; the arts and literature of the nation.
Bangkok for instance, is a busy, dangerous and overpopulated metropolis where people need protection, security and precautions to lead their lives.
Living in Bangkok makes for perpetual and erratic traffic patterns; holes and uneven pavement on streets and almost non-existent sidewalks obstruct pedestrians from walking safely in a congestion of exhaust fumes, motorcycles, small vans, smoke spewing buses and dangerous overhead wiring connections make daily life a perilous reality
Protection is greatly needed and the spirit world readily provides that security. No wonder every Thai homebusiness company, hospital and shop includes a spirit house on their premises – a refuge where offerings are exchanged for daily comfort and security in an uncertain world.
Finding ease and safety in a world of spirits is necessary; the Thais live primarily to truly enjoy their present life but at the same time, they aim to live it with decorum, good behavior and self control as these are superior principles in the attainment of final enlightenmentBelieving in reincarnation means that each individual's karma (destiny) determines their fate.
By leading a superior life and observing the 5 important teachings
• Helping those of lesser means
• Kindness towards others 
• Donations to monks on their early morning rounds
• Contributions to the temple
• Meditation
By observation of all the above, enlightenment becomes possible.  
The belief that spirits inhabit everything that surrounds us provides contentment and comfort to the majority who along the way -- in the manner of good deeds, offerings to the spirits, the monks and the Buddha -- will unquestionably reach enhanced spiritual enlightenment and immortality of their soul.
In all probability, believers of animism seek to make sense of natural disasters and a violent world; appeasing the spirits through the creation of spirit houses and material offerings provides them with a shelter and a channel to balance and tranquility.